Interesting......

An email I received a few days ago and I feel apt to share it here..... Anyway, my 9yo niece thinks this 'message' is funny coz' it rhymes...

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Pesanan dari ustaz kat office gua…..

KALAU SUAMI, JIKA SUAMI

Kalau suami mula berahsia..
Itu tandanya dia tak setia
Kalau suami meninggi suara
Itu tandanya dia dah ada mak we Kalau suami mengaku bujang tua
Itu tandanya dia nak ngurat anak dara
Kalau suami selera tak ada
Itu tandanya dia nak pasang dua

Kalau suami lambat balik aje

Itu tandanya dia dah syok kat setiausaha
Kalau suami tidur di ruang tamu

Itu tandanya dia dah jemu
Kalau suami malam jumaat buat tak tahu

Itu tandanya tak lama lagi
hidupmu bermadu
Kalau suami garang macam singa
Itu tandanya hati dia dah tak cinta

Kalau suami asyik komplen aje

Itu tandanya dia dah tak suka

Kalau suami mula sepak terajang ke muka

Itu tandanya dia nak memberimu title JANDA....... ....... ..

Jika suami sayangkan isteri
Dapat gaji semua diberi

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Kerja rumah rela dikongsi

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Kereta diberi suami naik LRT

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Duit poket diberi setiap hari

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

SMS dikirim tanda rindu dihati

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Kongsi masalah nasihat dikasi

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Diberi ciuman setiap pagi

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

I love U, I miss U katanya setiap hari

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Isteri gemuk, dikatakan seksi

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Sakit sikit selongkar laci ubat dicari

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Kemana sahaja dibawa pergi

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Sentiasa jujur perihal diri

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Status berkahwin bangga sekali

Jika suami sayangkan isteri

Cintanya suci hingga ke mati

PESANAN KEPADA ISTERI2 :

Adakah suami2 kita tergolong dlm kategori ini? JIKA SUAMI ... lebih banyak

dari KALAU SUAMI maka bersyukurlah kerana

rumahtangga anda umpama SYURGA.

TETAPI ... KALAU SUAMI.... lebih banyak dari JIKA SUAMI... maka

berhati-hatilah. .

wahai kaum isteri jangan sampai rumahtangga mu umpama NERAKA.

PERINGATAN KEPADA SUAMI2 :

Bukankah lebih baik jadikan rumahtangga itu SYURGA dari menjadikan ia NERAKA?????

JANGAN ANDA MERASA MENYESAL KERANA MENCINTAI ISTERI..KERANA DIALAH BIDADARIMU DI DUNIA INI...DAN JANGANLAH ANDA SERONOK MENZALIMINYA KERANA DOA ORANG TERANIAYA DITERIMA

ALLAH YANG ESA...

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Moral of the Story :

I believe every husbands and wives have their respective role to play and responsibilities to fulfill. Instead of questioning, demanding and reminding our other half on their responsibilities, I believe it’s wise to do some self–reflection and ask ourselves whether we’ve keep our part of the bargain and have we give our best for the marriage.

My Thoughts.....

Gosh! I’ve been busy like a bee... what with all those open house invitations, weekend getaway & rendezvous with my lil’ family, endless housechores and above all, DH is at home by dinner time (well, year end is just around the corner, so, DH is not swamped with heavy workloads that usually requires him to be home way past dinner time) and once Areya is fast asleep, I gotta spend wonderful cozy evenings with DH. Hmmmmmm.....tell me, who wouldn’t wanna snuggle with their own hubs while watching Transformers 2, The Proposal, The Ugly Truth and a few more that we finally managed to watch(yeah...yeah.... we are sooo outdated when it comes to the latest movies and yes! we do go to the cinemas but to only watch Areya’s kind of movies).

Speaking of movies & DVDs, we are supposed to watch District 9 tonite but here I am staring at my notebook while waiting for DH to come home and after I had my weekly CSI Miami dose

Apart from leading a life of a very busy and forever occupied SAHM, which is one of the main reasons for the scarcity of entries in my blog, I’m somehow not that motivated to blog. Not that I have nothing to blog about, to be honest, I have aplenty to share and update but sometimes I tend to get carried away once I started to blog on certain issues.

At the risk of appearing virtuous or holier-than-thou, I believe one should just keep their pretty mouth zipped or make full use of the internet to search for information and whatnots, if they don’t have anything nice to say, share or blog about. Otherwise, not only the person makes a fool of themselves but the impact of their idiocy might somehow cause damage to their spouses’ reputation. Well, ya’ know.... we can always look for information or search that particular someone at a click of a button and most of the time the information are accessible to public.

Anyway, at the end of the day, it’s their blog & space and if they feel that it’s deem appropriate to tell to the whole wide world, how ‘sick’ and miserable they are, I reckon, let them drown in their very own self-inflicted resentment self. And, if by destructively criticising other people or any diminutive matters, where each and everyone are at fault, is the only way to make them feel secure, safe and strong, I guess, let them live in their own delusional and lonely world.

As someone who’s extremely passionate, I admit that in the past I did use my blog as a platform to unleash my frustration or to get my message across and..... I can only say it was very very silly act of me. But, again, Alhamdulillah, I have a rational and astute partner who’s always by my side to guide the ever temperamental, volatile and controversial me. So, yeah! I’m slowly rectifying this evil side of me and I think I’ve made a slight improvement when Kak Long stared at me while I was updating her on ehem..ehem..ehem some unpleasant things some people said, that usually will make my ‘blood go upstairs’ one...... But, instead of ‘mengamuk’ and get very emo, I just laughed and shook my head in disbelief. After I was done with the ‘live-telecast’, Kak Long simply said that I managed to control my temper now (choi..choi... *touch wood*) and I seriously hope I’d be able to retain this truly uplifting trait, just like her and my mom.

Till later babes! DH is back and now, this SAHM need to attend to her ‘wifery’ role.... Ta ta for now!

Menjelang Hari Raya.......

Of late, I’m truly not inspired to blog.... Not quite know the reason though.... Maybe, it’s because of the fasting month where I’m usually a bit ‘pancit’ by mid afternoon and for someone who has a history of bad gastric and stomach ulcer problem, it can be pretty tough to survive in the month of Ramadhan. Or maybe it gotta do with that certain someone who’s bookmark my blog and responded in a very obnoxious manner that makes one wonder whether that certain someone is demented or mentally-disturbed.

Well, I believe it’s just the plain lazy me who sometimes need to find the mojo to update her blog but is so rajin blog-hopping and FB-ing for hours than updating her own blogs.

Anyway, while blog-hopping, I found this interesting post that is worth sharing with, and since Raya is just around the corner, I feel it’s apt to share this enlightening story with all my readers and fellow bloggers. It’s an eye-opener, at least to me!

I honestly am not able to verify the accuracy of the statements in this story, nor do I know the person who wrote this but if what this remarkable mother in this story said is true, I’ve got a lot to learn then.

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Setiap kali menjelang ramadhan tergiang-giang suara ibu yang rasanya baru saja saya dengar walaupun telah berlaku berbelas tahun.

Diantara tazkirah ibu yang amat saya ingat ialah ketika bulan puasa selepas bersahur sementara menunggu waktu solat subuh ibu akan memanggil kami semua (3 orang anak perempuannya - ibu mempunyai 4 orang anak perempuan seorang dah berumahtangga dan dua orang anak lelaki) dan akan bercerita tentang kebesaran Allah dan hukum hakam dalam islam dengan menggunakan bahasa yang amat mudah difahami walaupun ketika itu saya masih lagi bersekolah menengah rendah dan ayah pula meninggal dunia ketika usia saya tiga bulan

Ibu : Apa yang nak ibu cakap nie....dengar baik-baik lebih-lebih lagipada Ateh (anak no. 3) dan Acik (anak no.5). Ateh akan mendirikanrumahtangga taklama lagi. Apabila hampir penghujung puasa dah tentu kamu suami isteri akan berbantah-bantahan untuk pulang ke kampong siapa pada hari raya pertama. Betul tak?

Ateh & Acik : Betul....mestilah ghumah ibu dulu.........

Ibu : Dengar dulu....contohnya jika rumah kamu di Paka, rumah ibu di Johor dan rumah mentua kamu di Marang, rumah siapakah yang akan kamu tuju dulu?

Ateh & Acik : Ghumah ibulah.....

Ibu : Tidak.......ibu tidak izinkan kamu balik ke sini.........baliklah ke rumah mentua kamu dan jika mentua dan suami kamu izinkan barulah balik ke rumah ibu........ibu tak kisah hari raya yang keberapa sekalipun.

Ateh : Mengangguk.......(tanda faham ler tue...... dia nie banyak ikut perwatakan ibu....penyabar, bertolak ansur dan mahir dalam menjahit,sulam menyulam, memasak dan juga pandai mengurut....diantara kamiadik-beradik dialah yang paling dalam pengetahuannya dalam islam seperti ibu juga)

Acik : Mana boleh macam tu tak aci lahhhhhh......kena gilir-gilirlahbaru adil (dia nie memang kaki bangkang pun.....outspoken skit kalau dia tak puas ati)

Ibu : Ingatlah......jika anak-anak perempuan itu sayangkan ibu bapanya dan inginkan kebahagian ibu bapa nya di akhirat nanti... taatlah pada suami dan mentua ........

Acik : Macam kaum h**** lak... Dah kawin tak boleh gi rumah emak bapak.

Ibu : Bukan macam tu...... Islam tu indah.......setiap anak-anak perempuan yang taat pada suami di samping mentua mereka, ibubapanya akan mendapat pahala di atas ketaatannya itu.....dan seperkara lagi.....untuk menjaga suami tidak sesusah mananye... hanya dua perkara kalau kamu nak menundukkan suami kamu mengikut ISLAM......JAGALAH NAFSUNYA DAN JAGALAH PERUTNYA. InsyaAllah dia tak akan ke mana.....kalau dia melilau pun dia akan kembali kepada kamu juga... Pahala kamu ada di dalam rumah kamu tak payah bersusah payah macam kaum lelaki di luar rumah mencari pahala...

Ditakdirkan Allah Ateh bernikah dengan abang ipar yang yatim piatu......jadi setiap tahun beraya bersama ibu manakala Acik pulak masih mempunyai ibubapa mentua....Hampir setiap tahun pada hari raya puasa Acik sekeluarga akan beraya di rumah mentua di Melaka cuma pada hari keempat atau selebihnya di rumah ibu (rumah Acik di KL)...

Dengan takdir Allah ketika saya berada di tingkatan 6 rendah, dua hari sebelum hari raya puasa Acik sekeluarga tiba dirumah ibu. Ibu terkejut tapi saya rasa terkejut campur gembira agaknya ibu padamasa itu.

Selepas pulang dari solat terawih ibu duduk berbual dengan abang ipar...

Ibu : Bila kamu nak bawa isteri kamu pulang ke Melaka?

Abang ipar : Kami akan beraya di sini dan raya ke dua nanti baru balik ke Melaka (dia nie memang malu sakan dgn ibu).

Ibu : Adakah ini desakan dari isteri kamu?

Abang ipar : Tidak bu.......saya izinkan keluarga saya beraya di sini.

Ibu : Bagaimana ibubapa kamu adakah mereka setuju?

Abang ipar : Mereka tiada halangan (dalam hati saya rasa terkilan..........apalah ibu nie....biarkan jerlah Acik nak beraya disini)

Ibu : Izinkan ibu bercakap dalam talipon dengan emak kamu. (abang ipar bangun dan mendial no. talipon kampungnya dan menyerahkan ganggang talipon pada ibu....lama gak ibu bergayut dengan besannya). Emak kamu tak ada masalah kamu sekeluarga beraya bersama ibu di sini.(sambil menitis airmata). Terima kasih kerana membawa anak dan cucu-cucu ibu ke sini.

Apabila habis bulan syawal seperti biasa hanya saya dan ibu saja tinggal dirumah. Sebagai anak yang bongsu dan paling rapat dengan ibu dan masih solo ketika itu, ibu mencurahkan perasaan dan berbangga kerana dapat membimbing anak-anak perempuan nya kearah islam tapi ibu amat kecewa dengan kedua-dua anak-anak lelakinya yang seperti lembu dicucuk hidung menjadi pak turut kepada isteri mereka.

Bayangkanlah menantu perempuan ibu yang sulong tidak pernah bermalam di rumah ibu apatah lagi lepas makan nak tolong basuh pinggan ke atau menolong kerja-kerja rumah yang lain....(tak boleh cerita panjang.........dah masuk bab mengumpatlak.......).

Semasa saya di tingkat 6 atas ibu kembali ke rahmatullah membawa seribu kekecewaan di atas sikap anak-anak lelakinya.

Alhamdulillah apabila saya mendirikan rumahtangga......masalah pulang beraya tak mendatangkan masalah pada suami kerana semua jenis cuti kami sekeluarga akan habiskan di rumah mentua saya. Saya juga salah seorangmenantu yang disenangi. Saya selalu bertanya pada diri saya sendiri...... sempurnakah sudah aku sebagai seorang menantu? Sempurnakah aku sebagai seorang isteri yang solehah?......... berjayakah aku menjadi ibu sepertimana ibu ku dulu????????

Ya Allah.....berilah aku petunjuk dan pimpinlah aku ke jalan yang engkau redhai..... Aminnnnnn

Moral of the story

Jangan gaduh pasal balik raya la, pakat baik2.

Buat anak lelaki,tanggungjawab kat ibu sampai salah seorang (anak tu atau ibu) menemui ajalnya.

Buat para isteri, jangan sampai jadikan suami anak derhaka...

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Alhamdulillah, this ‘balik raya’ dilemma is never an issue for DH and me coz’ Raya is always celebrated with Mak and my family, while the Christmas festival and the long holidays are to be spent with DH’s family. Truth be told, I’m quite alright if DH wants to celebrate Raya with his family (since both of his younger brothers are Muslim too) in the future, coz’ I believe a wife’s place is always beside her husband and I sure wouldn’t want DH to be anak derhaka.

*Peace*

Till then, SELAMAT HARI RAYA AIDILFITRI......... Maaf, Zahir & Batin. Drive safely, do try not to burn the kitchen down while showing off your cooking skills this Raya, eh? and Happy 'Binge'ing!

Maid Oh Maid.........

So, Indonesian maids here are entitled for a one day off a week. Good for them....... because I sincerely feel that they truly deserve a day rest after having to work round the clock 24/7, 365 days a year.

It’s hard work okay! Trust me!!!! Especially when you are a SAHM or WAHM with no domestic helper but one super hyper toddler at home. Thus, come weekends and in order for me to be a good mommy, I need my me-time away from my lil’ girl. I just need a few hours to myself.... the most 2 hours la.... after that. I’d surely scrambled my way back to her.

As much as I wanted to say that a day off should only be given to those competent and good maids, and not to those with extraordinary ‘skills’ to cause their employers to suffer an unexpected high blood pressure, severe migraine or maybe heart attack with their ineptitude and always ‘saya-lupa’ line, I guess it’s not fair because everyone need a rest and no matter how ‘lembab’or blur they seem to be, they’re still human. Hooooboy, I sure heard lotsa fascinating stories about them, maid!!!!!

Okay, juicy maid stories aside....... Seriously, I could relate to the predicament most employers are in and why this regulation’s implementation is met with so much objections by the employers. They worry about ‘runaway maids’ if they’re allowed to keep their passport, maids mixing with the ‘wrong company’ if they’re allowed to roam freely on their day off, maids’ safety yada...yada...yada....... Who wouldn’t?

Furthermore, what guarantee do the employers have when their maids run away? Honestly, I’m not convinced with the ‘we-will-revoked-the-runaway maids’-temporary permit- statement-and-they-will not be-allowed-to-enter-Malaysia-again’ statement issued by the Home Minister. So far la, how many of those runaway maids are caught? Andddddddd who’s going to compensate those unfortunate employers with runaway maids? Nada! Yeeelek! Sendiri jugak mau tanggung oooooo! ....... Btw, to those with maids and quite buddy buddy la, just ask them whether the ‘current’ name is their real name. You’d be surprised ok! They can swap names with other maids or maybe come out with totally new ones.....

Anyway, based on my observations, there are some employers who’re unable to apply basic humanitarian principles to their maid’s working conditions. Maids are made to work round the clock, from keeping the house clean, ironing, cooking to taking care of the kids and it matters not whether the employers are off to the workplace or chilling at home. Aren’t we, one pampered lot?

I understand with the increasingly high cost environment, it’s indeed necessary for both husband and wife to work, thus it’s norm to outsource familial duties and responsibilities but that does not give any parents the green light to disregard their own parental responsibilities, whether they’re working moms, SAHM, WAHM or not! Maid is just a helper not another mother to the kids. To me, if a working parent knows the meaning of ‘tired’ after 10 hours in the office (read : one can still chat, gossip, blog, msn, ym and fb-ing amidst the busy schedule), 5 days a week, then, shouldn’t they know that rest is what their maids need to? Is it too difficult to comprehend?

And don’t get me started with other employers who not only expect their maids to take care of the kids while they got to enjoy and finish their meals but didn’t even order any decent meals for their maids. Jadi, the maid dok telan ayaq lioq je laaa...... Mean and inhumane, huh?

Of course, there’re also lotsaaaaaaaaaa ‘problematic’maids. Just ask anybody with a maid and you’d hear frustrated sigh, see them rolling their eyes and shaking their heads most of the times. And wtf, the Indonesian government has the audacity to ask for a minimum of RM800 wages for these maids?!!! If the maids are well-trained takpe, ni dapat yang...huh..... you fill in the blanks yourself la.....

Whatever it is, maids are human and they need to rest too and what they decided to do outside of the house on their off day is beyond the employers’ control. But, if these maids sincerely come to Malaysia to work, nak cari rezeki halal and spendthrift, I doubt that they’d even consider going out on their own because $$$$$ matters to them and you know how expensive an unreliable our public transportations are, itu belum makan2, lepak2, coffee2 lagi tu! Maybe...... just maybe la the maid wants to stay home and sleep and eat and sleep again and eat again on her day off or may very well just wanna follow other family members’ outing without having to ‘angkut’ the employer’s kids along, which she’s perfectly entitled to do so!

Come on! It’s just one day in a week and I doubt any parents are too dependent on their maids that they could not take care of their kids on their own. You can always have your manicure or pedicure on Monday, no?

I might sound arrogant to some but honestly, a failure to accord maids with this basic right is equivalent to modern-day slavery. Don’t you think so?

Sometimes, I do complain to DH how tiring it is to stay home but when I recalled my own unpleasant experience of having one, terus hilangla segala penat. For the time being, no maid rules in our household........ but in the future, hmmmmmm.....??????

As for now, I think I need below stuff in my household..... What say you?????

I-Roomba (pix) and Scooba. Click here for details

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*ROTFLHAO*

Thank you, thank you so much for adding some flavor into my life.....